Wednesday, July 2, 2008

Marriage & Divorce of a Pastor Family

Do you know that sometimes I feel like being married and then suddenly I have to get a divorce??

Yup, being in the ministry sometimes make me feel like I'm in a multiple marriages and divorces situation. One day, we are assigned..."married" to a church....and after a few years, we have to be reassigned..."divorce and remarried" to another church.

On one hand, it is a good situation...on the other hand...it is not easy!!! How can you quickly forget your former church and move your heart and feelings to a new church? The worse part is, it is most difficult for the children...this is because I was told that it is not "ethical" to keep going back and reconnected to the "former" church....just like it is not good to get "reconnected" to your former spouse.

This makes it a lonely situation for the whole family. Although making new friends are great but the transition period is the most lonely. I guess if you choose to serve, sometimes your cross is loneliness. Remember the song: "...but I don't know a thing, in this whole wide world...that's worse than being alone..." IT IS SOOOOO TRUE!!

When Christ called us to minister His church, He didn't exactly provide us with an "instruction manual" for this kind of changes is it? I admit that it is a very difficult situation...and the process will take time, heart, soul....and sometimes, money. My hope is only that God will not leave us so that we will not be alone.


Where No One
Stands Alone

By Mosie Lister


Once I stood in the night
With my head bowed low
In the darkness as black as could be
And my heart felt alone
And I cried, oh Lord!
Don't hide Your face from me....


Hold my hand, all the way
Every hour, every day
From here to the great unknown
Take my hand, let me stand
Where no one, stand alone!!


Like a king I may live
In the palace so tall
With great riches to call my own
But I don't know a thing
In this whole wide world
That's worse than being alone....



Hold my hand, all the way
Every hour, every day
From here to the great unknown
Take my hand, let me stand
Where no one, stand alone!!


The End of the Year

The year 2019 is coming to an end. I noticed that I have not been writing for two and half years. So, I cannot help but feeling a bit ....hm...